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So does the relay and the diode look correct...

the 24v live to the relay is constant direct from the power supply if i test from 0v on the power supply.
i have 0v across pin 13 and 14 and then 24v across pin 13 and 14 when the spindle is turned on but only when the relay is pulled out.... it i put the relay in and test i only get 2 or 3v

just to confirm...on the relay is pin 13 to be 24v or 0v